So onto the next thing we've learned as parents - giving children choices also gives them the opportunity to say one of their favorite words: NO - which is okay in some situations, not so much in others. In the case of getting dressed, they have to wear a shirt so "no" isn't really an option. Sometimes you just have to tell them what they're going to be doing. For instance, going to the doctor or to bed - or some other thing they might not enjoy. Giving them a choice in these matters can end up with a huge fight, tears and tantrums and is generally unnecessary because it's something they're going to have to do anyway. You wouldn't say, do you want to go get a shot today? No, obviously not! So in those situations sometimes it's best to not give choices.
We had a situation like this earlier today. We overslept and I was trying to get my son ready for school in a hurry. He doesn't do well with quick changes & disruptions (especially sleep) and was definitely letting us know about it. He did the "limp rag doll" routine when I was trying to get his shoes, shirt and pants on and kept yelling about how he couldn't go to school. He normally loves school and I think it didn't help that when I woke him up I asked are you ready to get up and get ready for school? I imagine he immediately thought NO, I was sleeping & you woke me up! You've disrupted my schedule, woman!
So you're supposed to give choices but sometimes you can't give them choices, right? I think the best piece of advice is to use your own judgment in each situation with your children. You know how they'll react. And sometimes kids just get in moods - like everyone else - and are unpredictable. If all else fails, just know that I've been there and so have most moms. I won't laugh if I see you out & about with your half-dressed, tantrum-throwing child. Well, I may laugh...but only because I've been there too.
Zeke having an angry moment....