Tuesday, April 27, 2010

What is Love? Love is a Way of Life.

Sometimes we take love for granted. Speaking specifically of spouses, sometimes our love gets put on the back burner. We may tune out our husband or wife so we can watch TV, we go to sleep at separate times, we get busy with the kid's activities, church or work. It's never ending. We become short and snappy with another, forget anniversaries and important events or may even become bitter and jaded about our marriage. Bottom line? We're not connecting as often as we should!
Marriage is not something that you just "do" and then it's done. Do you know what I mean? It's something that happens daily, not just once on your wedding day. My friend Chrissi wrote a great blog post called I Choose You about "choosing" our spouses - supporting them, caring for them and treating them the way we'd like to be treated. This is something we need to do daily - love is a way of life. I challenge you to daily "choose" your spouse. Try some of these ideas:
  • Find unique ways to connect! Leave love notes in odd places around your house. Try recreating one of your first dates. Play a "getting to know you" game where you talk about your goals, dreams and aspirations. If you can't or don't want to go out on a date, have a date night at home - make your own movie theater or restaurant!
  • Put your spouse above yourself. Here's a thought - what could you do today that would help your spouse out or give them a break? Run a bubble bath for your wife (if that's her cup of tea) and take the kids to the park. Make your hubby's favorite dinner and offer him a back rub. You don't have to spend money or do anything crazy - something simple could really brighten your spouse's day.
  • Make a point to do at least one loving thing every day. Vow to give a compliment to your spouse every day and stick to it. (Even if you have to write it down to remember!) Or commit yourself to doing a chore your spouse hates every day for a week. 
Do you have any other ideas about keeping love as a way of life? Leave your thoughts in the comments! :)
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    4 COMMENTS:

    1. This is so true. We have to "remind" ourselves not to take our spouses for granted. I know I am guilty of this sometimes.
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    2. It's always a nice feeling that somebody is there who loves U unconditionally and is always there for U .Whether the person is there actually around U or not that doesn't matter.And to keep this feeling alive these small things can really help U.Thanks for posting the ideas.
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    3. It's so hard to lose the spark when you've got kids. My bit of advice is - if you have help (mother, sister, friend, babysitter) - use them. Make it a point to have someone watch the kids at least one night a month so you and your S.O. can connect with some quality time.
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    4. Great advice! I totally agree!
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