In the pastor's sermon during the wedding service, she discussed the "clothes" of marriage. For our wedding day we put on our finest and best - generally a tux for the groom and a beautiful white wedding gown for the bride. My friend's gown was gorgeous lace and she had a long, flowing train and veil. My wedding gown was a big poofy princess-type ballgown. The pastor said you don't normally see many married people in their everyday lives - cleaning, taking care of kids, working in the yard, going to work - in their wedding clothes! Can you imagine feeding your kids or changing the oil in your car in your formal wear? We have to put on clothes that are more comfortable and adaptable to our everyday, normal lives - and that's not necessarily a bad thing. You've got to be able to adapt and change through the years of your marriage. In fashion and in life, comfortable isn't always bad. Being comfortable is:
- not worrying about being perfect.
- having someone to share your joys, challenges, happiness and struggles equally.
- being able to finish each other's sentences and being able to communicate without speaking.
- knowing exactly what the other person likes or wants and what their goals for life are.
But it's also good to remember that in fashion as in life, comfortable isn't always good either! (My ratty pajama pants and High School band t-shirts are not always the best choice to wear to every function.) If we get too comfortable - or shall I say, lazy? - we can take our spouse for granted, ignore them or treat them badly. We can become so comfortable that we stop caring about how we look or how we act around them. What I'm saying is that it's not a bad idea to keep those "wedding clothes" around, figuratively. We should be comfortable but instead of abandoning the wedding clothes completely and getting immersed in the everyday, remember the emotions and feelings of that wedding day - the love, the tenderness, the excitement, the joy and yes, even the happy tears!
I am participating in Marriage Monday this week, hosted by Julie at Come, Have a Peace - stop by to check out some other marriage related posts!