Our family operates a little differently than most others in regards to our schedule. My husband has worked many different shifts in the almost eight years we've been together and we've learned a lot from each of them - some I'd gladly embrace, others I never want to do again!
For example, he's worked:
- During a strike at a factory where he worked a month straight with very little to no sleep
- Swing shifts of 3 days on/3 days off or 4 days on/4 days off
- Alternating week long of nights and week long of day shifts
- Periods where he only got his schedule maybe a week or so in advance
Having a husband that works an opposite (or different) schedule than the majority of the world can sometimes present problems for you, for him, and for your family as a whole. For instance:
- If your hubby is gone working all night, when he comes home he needs to sleep! This can be difficult with children and/or a household that thrives during the day.
- He may be missing out on things while he's gone - school events, date nights, family cookouts & parties - because you and your children's schedules don't match up with his work schedule. You may start to feel like you're a single parent or that you have to do everything yourself.
- His working a different type of shift may prevent you from having time to yourself or being able to spend quality time as a couple. And on his days off, he's so used to being on that other shift that he'll probably have trouble trying to adapt to a "normal" schedule.
- Most people have a "regular" schedule and don't understand or can't relate to the fact that yours is different. They can't understand why you're not planning anything for the weekend - or whatever day it is that he has time off - because they are free those days...why aren't you?