I'm joining in again (late!) with the Women Living Well Making Your Home A Haven Challenge. These were the main goals/focus areas for last week:
"Play soft music everyday in your home. Choose worship, classical, jazz or another form of peaceful music that the family enjoys. Focus on using peaceful words and maintaining peaceful relationships. Work on gentleness and self-control this week."
I didn't play music each day - I started doing it about halfway through the week because I'm a forgetful pregnant lady. Selections were Chopin and Rachmaninoff. I tried (and am still trying) to use peaceful words more with my children. My daughter and I worked on her room together at the beginning of last week and it was actually not horrible. I chose not to scream or fight with her, but instead to just help and direct her. Was it time consuming? Yes. Did I feel like I was constantly repeating myself? Yes. But it's almost a week later and it's still (relatively) clean. I'm finding that she just needs the constant reminders right now - I don't know if it's the age/stage she is in or just her personality in general - but as long as I remind her (sometimes several times) she will do it. And I was especially reminded of that after reading Courtney's post last week where she mentioned that "yelling at a bud won't make it bloom." I was also reminded of the Frog & Toad children's story we read earlier in the year where Toad wanted to have a garden like Frog's but he didn't know how. One of the ways he tried getting his plants to grow was by yelling, "GROW PLANTS! GROW!" This obviously didn't work. I tried to keep that in mind and instead focus last week on directing, repeating, and speaking softly. I have failed some here and there but I do feel like it's helping somewhat. (Now to just tackle that same giant task in my eldest son's room.....)
|Ellie's (mostly) clean room. Hey, there's a floor in there!!|
And here are the goals/focus areas for this week:
"Keep the candle burning, the music playing and plan a Family Fun Night. Have a pillow party in the family room and get out every blanket and pillow in the house and be cozy with the kids or your hubby! Even if you live alone you can do this. Enjoy a cozy evening of hot cider and caramel corn. Bust out some old fashioned games and take the time to savor these moments with your loved ones. Work on kindness and joy this week."
Oooh, this will be fun! I'm thinking possibly Friday night. My stepdaughter will be here for the weekend so I'm thinking maybe Friday night we can get out the blankets & board games, make some popcorn & hot chocolate, and just have fun. (I may have to look up how to make caramel corn because that sounds DELICIOUS!)