Guest Post: 5 Simple Things I Did to Survive the First Three Months with my Baby

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5 Simple Things I Did to Survive the First Three Months with my Baby

Babies are just adorable. Their random smiles, coos, smell… everything is just lovely.
But it’s not always like that. During the first three months, it’s terrifying particularly when you’re a first-time parent. For some reason, they just don't want to sleep or let anyone do so peacefully. They cry. And cry. And cry. Without you knowing what’s wrong.
And trust me, that is just the beginning.
However:
It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go sleepless for the the entire quarter. There are hacks you can do to keep your sanity intact.

How to survive baby’s first three months:

Change your perspective

Yes, your baby is out in the world finally. But have you ever wondered how it feels when you’re warm and cozy one day then exposed to a plethora of alien objects the next?
That’s what our babies feel.
So:
The first thing you have to do is think of the first quarter as your little one’s final trimester.
What I mean is, try to replicate the environment your baby had inside the womb. Today’s Parent suggests soothing techniques that should calm your little ones. These techniques may vary from swaddling, shushing, swinging, sucking, and placing your baby on a side or stomach position.

Ask around

It may be embarrassing especially if you have to call your mom in the middle of the night to ask if your baby’s movements while sleeping are too much or just normal. But our parents and other moms are one of the best sources of parenting tips really.
More often than not, they’ve been through what you’re going through at the moment; so it’s only but proper to ask for their ideas.
My mom was my go-to person when my first born would cry. I’m a panicker, but she’d always calm me down. She was the one who taught me about swaddling because I didn’t know about the Karp’s techniques back then. She also taught me that a baby should burp after feeding. In short, she taught me a lot about parenting.
Good thing I asked!
But:
Be wary. Some of the techniques our parents used may no longer be applicable. So always look for a second (and third) opinion. Then find a consensus.

Research

The internet is here for a reason, y’all. But you have to be very careful. Make sure the site you are following has medically or at least mom-approved contents.
My top pick is Babycenter for two reasons. One, their articles are written by experts. Two, they have a forum for parents.
Plus, the topics are comprehensive!
It’s where I learned about the breathing patterns of a newborn, the milestones, the symptoms, and a lot more.
It helped me save a lot of money, too! If it were not for this site, I would probably have visited the ER for the most trivial reasons.
The second one (actually it’s also my top pick but for a different purpose) is Kelly Mom. You see, I had a problem with breastfeeding. My nipples were inverted.
It was through this site I learned about different ways of letting my baby latch properly, how to soothe engorged breasts, etc.
It also saved me trips to my doctor several times. Without this site, I would have given up breastfeeding altogether when I couldn’t do it properly the first few tries.

Rest

You carried your precious angel for nine months. You went through a whole lot of pain from labor to delivery. You should get some rest.
It doesn’t mean you should tune out your baby altogether, though. Just get some rest whenever you can.
In my experience, I would sleep whenever my little one was asleep.
Yes, there are bottles to be cleaned and laundry to be washed, but remember you only have one body. Exhaust it, and it will be even more difficult for you and your baby.
Plus, you can ask for someone else’s help to do that stuff while you sleep. I was lucky my mom had a lot of spare time, so she could help me a lot. And my husband was also very supportive of me.
If there’s no one to lend you a hand, make sure you have automated machines to make your work faster.

Relax

Of course, relaxing when your baby is wailing is very hard to do. I remember traveling from a short vacation when my first-born was two months old and he started crying and screaming for some reason.
To add insult to injury, we were in a traffic jam because a truck ahead of us broke down. Our driver had been trying to get to the emergency bay so I could get out and hopefully calm her down with whatever magical move I could come up with, but he couldn’t.
All I could do is blame everyone around me and yell at them for making any noise. I probably even yelled at them merely for breathing.
When we got home, my mom told me that it’s not the best way to react in situations like that. I’m not sure if it’s true, but she said our baby can feel it when we’re tensed.
I haven’t researched about it, but it’s plausible. Also, I tried staying calm the next time my baby cried inconsolably, and it was more manageable.
It may be a coincidence, but it’s really better for you if you stay at ease even when the situation is not. Imagine all the tension you’d save when you do.

Again...

Parenting is bliss. That’s true.
But we can’t avoid instances when we’d ask, “When is this going to end?” and that’s perfectly OK. Don’t feel guilty about it.
What you can do while that phase is to keep an open mind, try to understand your baby, ask for help, and take care of yourself.
But, best of all, seize every minute of it! It may never happen again.
Bio: Sarah Morgan is the founder/editor at WellBeingKid.com. A sister, a daughter, a wife, but most especially a mother. Being a mother makes her realize that life is a great adventure. No day is always the same, which makes every day so much more exciting.

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